Posts in Lifestyle
How to Rid Yourself of Comparisonitis

It's so easy to fall into the trap of comparing your reality with that of another human or many humans for that matter.

This/these person(s) are probably on the other side of the earth coming at you through that little screen in your hand. Making you feel like you're not pretty enough, not free enough, not you enough.

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Define Success for You, Dudette

Success can seem like a really scary word. It certainly does to me. Constantly trapped between what success should look like and what it looks like in my heart and soul.

What I know to be true today is that success, for me, is a feeling and that it doesn't have to be an overarching notion.

I'm sorry, Steph, but what? You’ve lost me.

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How to Escape the Fear Spiral of Doom

Fear is a very fickle thing. 

If you’re not careful it can really get the drop on you. Have you going from “I can do anything” to “omg I’m a failure at life”, in a heartbeat. 

I am a professional fear spiral breather througher. It’s a thing. Don’t question it. 

Funny thing about fear is that you always make it through to the other side, and you can always do so landing back on your own two feet and maybe even more sure than you where before. 

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The School of Life Chronicles

Education and I have had a very interesting relationship.

I’ve loved it, felt betrayed by it, appreciated by it, defeated by it, felt like I let it down. You get the idea. An endlessly complicated love-hate relationship.

But mostly, I’ve felt pride, shame, and guilt around it.

Weird right?

Is it though? Maybe not.

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Worthy As You Are, Always

It’s funny.

Sometimes I catch myself just absurdly blissful with where I am at and where I am going. I wake up with a pep in my step and motivation on the highest vibes.

I am acutely aware of all my blessings and all the things I achieve in a day, big and small. Every one of them an acknowledgment that I’m on the right path, that I am working towards my dream. That my dream is already here :)

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Kick Self-Doubts’ Butt

Self-doubt is such a little biatch. 

Overcoming it is an exhausting never-ending battle with yourself and who you want to be. 

It’s easy to say “I don’t care what they think”, and maybe you mean it. Maybe you really don’t care what the majority of people have to say about your choices. But, to not let other people's opinions or expectations affect you at all is another thing entirely. An entirely human thing. 

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Energy Suckers Vs. Energy Givers

The word “boundaries” has been floating around in my head quite a bit in the last several months. 

Setting them and sticking to them has always been something I have struggled with immensely (chronic people pleaser over here).

I can still remember when I first became aware of the notion of “boundaries”.  I could not tell you how old I was but I remember being in elementary school or middle school and my dad sitting me down to talk about the energy suckers and the energy givers of the world. He was trying to protect me from what he could see happening.

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How I am Ending My Busy Bee Cycle

It has really started to dawn on me that there is nothing you really NEED to do. There is only what you think you should be doing and what you feel compelled to do. 

The things that you feel you SHOULD be doing are the things that make you feel guilty when you’re not doing them or working towards them in some way. So much so that even when you are practicing the infamous “self-care” you are thinking about them. You are loathing yourself in some way for postponing those tasks.

This is bullshit.

I am an expert at it. 

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Just Quit it With the SHOULDS and WOULDS, Would ya?

It’s really easy to say that you shouldn't get lost in the SHOULDs and WOULDs.

It’s really easy to hear it, really feel it, agree, and then...you know...forget. This is why it has taken me 29 years to figure out is that being you, and living your life from a place that is authentically you, or aligned with who you want to be is a DAILY practice. It doesn’t just click one day and then that’s it. Sweet, you’re good to go now. Now go off and be you all over the world. No one’s opinions will affect how you express yourself or act anymore. Hate to break it to you, but not so much.

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