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How to Escape the Fear Spiral of Doom

Fear is a very fickle thing. 

If you’re not careful it can really get the drop on you. Have you going from “I can do anything” to “omg I’m a failure at life”, in a heartbeat. 

I am a professional fear spiral breather througher. It’s a thing. Don’t question it. 

Funny thing about fear is that you always make it through to the other side, and you can always do so landing back on your own two feet and maybe even more sure than you where before. 

I’ve come to look at fear as a test. A test of wills to determine how badly I want it. Am I willing to fight through the indecisiveness and the self-defeat to get to it? Am I willing to kick my own ass into gear?

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Worthy As You Are, Always

It’s funny.

Sometimes I catch myself just absurdly blissful with where I am at and where I am going. I wake up with a pep in my step and motivation on the highest vibes.

I am acutely aware of all my blessings and all the things I achieve in a day, big and small. Every one of them an acknowledgment that I’m on the right path, that I am working towards my dream. That my dream is already here :)

And then there are days where I wake up and could not be bothered. Where every win is barely acknowledged or felt. Where it’s hard to get out of pyjamas let alone go full-on towards my dreams. On days like this, I feel like life is getting the better of me. Like I’m tired of working. Like I’m tired of chasing. Like I’m just tired. 

I’ve decided to call these days my layer shedding days.

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Kick Self-Doubts’ Butt

Self-doubt is such a little biatch. 

Overcoming it is an exhausting never ending battle with yourself and who you want to be. 

It’s easy to say “I don’t care what they think”, and maybe you mean it. Maybe you really don’t care what the majority of people have to say about your choices. But, to not let other people's opinions or expectations affect you at all is another thing entirely. An entirely human thing. 

Sometimes it stops you in your tracks; derails you from the direction you were so sure about 2 days ago. Sometimes it can take a considerable amount of time to dust yourself off and pick yourself back up again. Sometimes starting from scratch in grounding yourself again. 

These times can be so incredibly frustrating. And often, for me anyway, it results in me kicking myself for allowing it to derail me in the first place. This only adds another layer of funk for me to shed at the end of it all. 

And that’s what overcoming self-doubt comes down to, CHOOSING to pick yourself up, forgive yourself for getting derailed, and moving on with your mission.

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Energy Suckers Vs. Energy Givers

The word “boundaries” has been floating around in my head quite a bit in the last several months. 

Setting them and sticking to them has always been something I have struggled with immensely (chronic people pleaser over here).

I can still remember when I first became aware of the notion of “boundaries”.  I could not tell you how old I was but I remember being in elementary school or middle school and my dad sitting me down to talk about the energy suckers and the energy givers of the world. He was trying to protect me from what he could see happening.

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How I am Ending My Busy Bee Cycle

It has really started to dawn on me that there is nothing you really NEED to do. There is only what you think you should be doing and what you feel compelled to do. 

The things that you feel you SHOULD be doing are the things that make you feel guilty when you’re not doing them or working towards them in some way. So much so that even when you are practicing the infamous “self-care” you are thinking about them. You are loathing yourself in some way for postponing those tasks.

This is bullshit.

I am an expert at it. 

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Just Quit it With the SHOULDS and WOULDS, Would ya?

It’s really easy to say that you shouldn't get lost in the SHOULDs and WOULDs.

It’s really easy to hear it, really feel it, agree, and then...you know...forget. This is why it has taken me 29 years to figure out is that being you, and living your life from a place that is authentically you, or aligned with who you want to be is a DAILY practice. It doesn’t just click one day and then that’s it. Sweet, you’re good to go now. Now go off and be you all over the world. No one’s opinions will affect how you express yourself or act anymore. Hate to break it to you, but not so much.

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10 Ways To Invest In Yourself (I Wish Someone Had Told Me Sooner)

It’s incredible how many of us forget to include ourselves on our list of priorities. Or, on a list of any kind for that matter.

And then, at some point, we realize we don’t even really know how.

Or, we’re too afraid of facing the hard truth that the distance between who we are and who we want to be has gotten pretty large.

Or, we don’t even really KNOW who we want to be.

Or, we don’t really understand who we CAN be.

Commence downward spiral.

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