The Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion

"Life changes in an instant.

The ordinary instant."

A spent the morning lost in a book...lost in emotion.

The Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion has been on my list of Must Read Before I Die books for a few years now. I can actually remember the moment I decided I needed to read it. I knew the impact it would have on me. I was sitting on my couch, watching a documentary about Joan Didion; one directed and created by her nephew; one with an acutely personal touch; one that touched my heart (Joan Didion: The Center Will Not Hold).

I have never forgotten her or this book.

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Literary Adventures: September Reads

September was the beginning of cozy season here in Saskatchewan, Canada (also known as fall/winter). So, when I was not editing books, I was reading them. Coffee in hand (like it had to be said) and comfort at optimal levels (slippers on).

Here’s what I dove into this month.

***No spoilers, I promise***

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How to Rid Yourself of Comparisonitis

It's so easy to fall into the trap of comparing your reality with that of another human or many humans for that matter.

This/these person(s) are probably on the other side of the earth coming at you through that little screen in your hand. Making you feel like you're not pretty enough, not free enough, not you enough.

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You are a Creative Genius. Yep, you.

Words are a special kind of magic. I have understood this for my whole life. Every day, lives are changed through songs, stories, speeches...memes. For me, they have most touched my life through books. Through pen and paper. Ouf. The hold books have had over me in my life. It's kind of hard to describe. But, suffice it to say, it's some real next-level love affair type stuff. They have guided my life. Have comforted me. Have taught me. Gave adolescent me unrealistic perspectives on men and relationships (Beware of Young Adult Fiction). And, have been a window into countless new perspectives, worlds, histories, minds, and lives.

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Define Success for You, Dudette

Success can seem like a really scary word. It certainly does to me. Constantly trapped between what success should look like and what it looks like in my heart and soul.

What I know to be true today is that success, for me, is a feeling and that it doesn't have to be an overarching notion.

I'm sorry, Steph, but what? You’ve lost me.

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Literary Adventures: August Reads

This month has been an intuitive reading month for me. What I mean by that is I read whatever I felt like reading in the moment I felt like reading it. As per usual, it means I read a lot of fiction and imagination expanding books.

It also means I read, A LOT. Aka best month ever.

Here are my 3 favourite reads this month: All written by badass literary females.

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Make It Happen For You (Not Them)

It’s funny how life triggers you sometimes. How it can almost stun you. Stop you in your motivational tracks. How it tests you. 

I believe in me, I really do. 

I’ve just never dreamed so big before and truly believed I would get there. Truly believed that I would make it happen. I merely hoped and wished it would fall into my lap. That someone I met would hear my stories and have a step-by-step guide for me to build my dream life guaranteed. 

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How to Escape the Fear Spiral of Doom

Fear is a very fickle thing. 

If you’re not careful it can really get the drop on you. Have you going from “I can do anything” to “omg I’m a failure at life”, in a heartbeat. 

I am a professional fear spiral breather througher. It’s a thing. Don’t question it. 

Funny thing about fear is that you always make it through to the other side, and you can always do so landing back on your own two feet and maybe even more sure than you where before. 

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The School of Life Chronicles

Education and I have had a very interesting relationship.

I’ve loved it, felt betrayed by it, appreciated by it, defeated by it, felt like I let it down. You get the idea. An endlessly complicated love-hate relationship.

But mostly, I’ve felt pride, shame, and guilt around it.

Weird right?

Is it though? Maybe not.

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Worthy As You Are, Always

It’s funny.

Sometimes I catch myself just absurdly blissful with where I am at and where I am going. I wake up with a pep in my step and motivation on the highest vibes.

I am acutely aware of all my blessings and all the things I achieve in a day, big and small. Every one of them an acknowledgment that I’m on the right path, that I am working towards my dream. That my dream is already here :)

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Review: Akata Witch by Nnedi Okorafor

It has been quite some time since I’ve gotten so lost in a book that I’ve let the world drop away for a couple of days. That I just let myself get fully lost in the magic world coming to life on the page and in my imagination. Meeting new characters (making new friends, really), exploring new worlds, with new tastes, new smells, new languages.

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Kick Self-Doubts’ Butt

Self-doubt is such a little biatch. 

Overcoming it is an exhausting never-ending battle with yourself and who you want to be. 

It’s easy to say “I don’t care what they think”, and maybe you mean it. Maybe you really don’t care what the majority of people have to say about your choices. But, to not let other people's opinions or expectations affect you at all is another thing entirely. An entirely human thing. 

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Grateful As It Is

Is it so wrong to just want to be happy? For that to be the goal? For that to be your measurement of success?

Obvious answer is OF COURSE NOT, that’s the ultimate goal, duh. Is it though?

When you really stop to think about what you are doing in your life right now, is happiness your goal?

Or is it a financial goal? A promotion? A deadline? 

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